Unsolicited Advice

When does it make sense to give advice without being asked? I'm asking for a friend 😋

I don't hold back, for the most part, I can share my opinion without judgement. I am also good at playing devil's advocate, talking up both sides just for the sake of a new perspective. One of the things I truly believe is that people, in general, are good. There are bad choices, poor attitudes and emotionally charged reactions but all-in-all, we are all good people. I don't like the idea of living in a world where humans can be 100% with no reason at all, evil to the core, with no explanation. I know it's a naive view but it's my hope and my prayer. I also know, from experience, that there are selfish, malicious, rude, judgmental people but it comes from somewhere; their past, their upbringing, their circumstances or a combination of the three. Back to my dilemma, I am wondering if unsolicited advice is ever appropriate?

At what point is it ok to interject in someone's life by sharing your two cents? Does it depend on how close you are to the person?

Does it have to be a life changing event before you step up to the plate?

When I wonder these things, I often consider "what if the tables were turned? Would I want someone to put their nose in my business?"

When I was younger, early to mid-twenties, I used to think so highly of myself (😂) I felt so wise and I knew so much, it only made sense that I should tell people how to live their lives. I have since learned my lesson, and humbled myself. If we are the sum of our experiences and no two people have walked the same path, then there is no way I can speak on behalf of someone else. My worry and concern can be overwhelming at times. My intentions come from a place of love and protection but when should I let go?

When, if ever, does it make sense to interfere?

It's probably best to let things play out, let people make their own choices and if it falls apart, let them learn the hard way. I know these things are true but it's hard to sit on the sidelines.

Writing helps me see things clearer... I know what I have to do but it doesn't mean I like it.